A Theory About the Variety of Human Sexual Behavior
Richard A. Gardner*
Be fruitful and multiply and fill
the earth ...
Genesis: 1:28
I have found the missing link
between the higher ape and civilized man: It is we.
Konrad Lorenz
Man becomes civilized when his
animal impulses are tamed, subdued and transcended by his social nature.
Abba Eban
ABSTRACT: Dawkins's theory of gene transmission is extended and
applied to develop a theory about the variety of human sexual
behavior. According to this theory, the many different types of
human sexual behavior, including the paraphilias, can be seen as having
species survival value. These atypical sexual behaviors all, in
some way enhance the general level of sexual excitation in society and
therefore increase the likelihood that people will engage in sexual
activities that lead to procreation. Basic differences between men
and women can also be understood with this theory. The political
nature of the DSM-III-R, particularly in regard to homosexuality and
pedophilia, are discussed as they relate to this theory.
I have never felt completely comfortable with the terms natural and
unnatural when they apply to human sexual behavior. In a sense,
one could say that any form of sexual behavior that can be exhibited by
a human being must be considered natural in that it is part of the human
repertoire. Generally, the term unnatural has been applied to
those variations that have been considered unacceptable to a particular
social group.
In a somewhat grandiose fashion, each society considers natural (in
compliance with God's [or nature's) purposes) those particular forms of
sexual behavior that are widely practiced and accepted and deems
unnatural (at variance with nature's [or God's] purposes) those forms of
sexual behavior that are atypical and/or by social convention
"wrong," "bad," "disgusting," etc.
Sometimes sexual behavior that does not lead directly to procreation has
been subsumed under the unnatural rubric. As I hope to
demonstrate, even those forms of sexual behavior that do not lead
immediately to procreation may still serve nature's purposes and thereby
not warrant being excluded from the list of the so-called natural forms
of human sexual behavior.
Gender Differences in Mating Patterns
In order to appreciate fully the theory I propose, it is important
first to understand my concept of the origins of gender differences in
mating patterns. I believe that there is genetic programming for
women to be more passive, coy, and seductive, and for men to be more
assertive and aggressive in the courtship process. Although social
influences certainly play a role in such patterns, I believe the genetic
factors are the more important. I recognize this is an unpopular
thing to say at a time when male/female egalitarianism is very much in
vogue; yet, I believe I have good arguments to support my position.
No one can deny that up until the 20th century men were primarily the
hunters and fighters (protectors and warriors). Women, in
contrast, were primarily the child rearers. I am making no
judgments regarding whether this was good or bad or right or wrong, only
that it was the reality of the world up until the 20th century for the
vast majority of people. Of course, there were and still are
occasional societies in which this principle did not hold, but these
exceptions do not in any way detract from the validity of my
generalization. (There is always an island in the South Pacific
that will demonstrate any point in support or in refutation.)
Those men who were genetically strong in the hunting/fighting
functions were more likely to survive than those who were not.
Those who were weaker in these functions were less likely to have food
for survival and/or the capacity to protect themselves from their
enemies. Consequently, their genes were not as likely to have been
passed down to subsequent generations.
Also, those who were weak in these areas were less likely to attract
women, in that women tend (then and now) to consider as desirable mates
men who exhibit a high capacity for providing food, clothing, and
shelter for themselves and their children and high capability for
protecting the potential family from enemies. This is another
reason why the genes of men who were weaker in these areas were less
likely to survive in the genetic pool.
Similarly, women who were stronger in the child-rearing realm were
more likely to be viewed by men as desirable mates and their genes, as
well, were more likely to be passed down to their progeny. The
greater aggressiveness of the male was not simply confined to hunting
and warring; it was also used in the service of mating. More
aggressive men, then, were more likely to be successful in acquiring
mates. And so we have another factor favoring the selective
survival of more aggressive men.
Youngsters today of both sexes carry within them these genetic
programs. Although we human beings are less beholden to our
instinctual drives than are lower animals, we are still affected by
them. A bird, for example, during the mating season, may have no
choice other than to go through the mating ritual of its species.
We humans have procreative urges, but we are not required to mate in any
particular season, nor are we compelled to follow rigid mating patterns
of behavior. However, this does not preclude our being programmed
for such mating patterns with the resultant pressure for their
expression.
There is another factor operative in gender differences in mating
patterns. This relates more directly to reproductive
capacity. It is a principle of Darwin's theory of natural
selection and survival of the fittest that each species generally
produces far more offspring than can possibly survive. Those
particular forms that are most adaptable to the environment in which
they have been born are more likely to survive and perpetuate the
species. Those that are less adaptable to the particular
environment will generally die off. This is the central element in
the Darwinian theory. If one examines this further, one finds that
there are two factors operative here: quantity and quality.
With regard to quantity, the number of offspring produced is
far greater than can possibly survive in a particular environment.
With regard to quality, the quality or type of offspring that is
most adaptable to the specific environment is most likely to
survive. Accordingly, one must consider both quantity control and
quality control. Furthermore, with regard to quantity, the general
thrust is for an organism to produce as many offspring as possible,
i.e., the greatest quantity possible most often far more than can
possibly survive. With regard to quality, the general thrust is to
select, narrow down, and restrict survival to those forms that will
adapt best to and survive in a particular environment. The two
processes of control, then, are antagonistic. The quantity control
factors work toward the survival of the greatest number of
offspring. The quality control factors operate to reduce and/or
limit the number of offspring that will survive. Those forms that
ultimately survive represent a balance of these two antagonistic forces.
In many forms of life, one of the sexes is specifically designated to
provide quantity and the other quality. Often, it is not difficult
to determine which sex is primarily involved in which function.
This is certainly the case for the human being. Men are clearly
the ones involved in producing the greatest quantity of offspring,
whereas women are the quality controllers. If one were to simply
view human beings as baby factories, whose main purpose is to perpetuate
the species (a not absurd view), and if one were to ask which sex is
more likely to produce a high quantity of offspring, it is clearly the
male.
If a man were to devote his whole life to the procreative process, it
is reasonable that he could father one to two babies a day, providing,
of course, he was provided with women who were in the fertile stages of
their menstrual cycles. Therefore, the male is reasonably capable
of fathering 500 babies a year. We know that we could start using
males for this purpose at about the age of 13 or 14, but we do not know
the upper age at which such utilization would no longer be
possible. There are men in their 90s who have viable sperm.
But let us, more practically, end the male's fecund period at 75,
because most men do not live beyond that age, and older men are less
likely to father 500 babies a year. Accordingly, it is reasonable
to say that the average male has a fecund period of 60 years.
Fathering 500 babies a year for 60 years would enable a man to father
30,000 babies. (I am not addressing myself here to practicality, only to
the issue of maximum possible reproductive capacity if one were to make
use of men and women for this purpose.)
In contrast, if a woman were to devote her fecund life to being a
baby factory, she could reasonably reproduce one child a year from age
13 to about 56 (the oldest "proven" age at which a woman has
been demonstrated to give birth). This will give her approximately
40 to 45 babies. Accordingly, it is reasonable to conclude that
the male is very much the one capable of producing the greatest quantity
of offspring.
What I have said thus far relates purely to biological
capacity. The next question relates to the actual behavior of each
of the sexes regarding the procreative process. The potential
for being a reproductive factory is there, but in practice individuals
generally have other things to do with their lives besides fornicating
and propagating. And probably the most important of these other
functions is child rearing. If no concern is given to the
protection of the young, then babies will not survive and there would be
no point to devoting one's Iife solely to manufacturing them.
This brings us to quality control, the second step necessary for
species survival. It is here that women have played the more
formidable role. In order to carry out this function, it behooved
women to be more circumspect with regard to mate selection. Those
who were so, were more likely to be chosen as mates and more likely to
pass their stronger childrearing genes down to their offspring.
Men, I believe, have been programmed to crave sex indiscriminately
with large numbers of women, i.e., to impregnate as many women as
possible. From the roving bands of men in perpetual heat, a woman
must select the man who is most likely to remain around after
impregnation and serve the role of food gatherer and protector. In
order to realize this important goal, women do best to be less impulsive
with regard to gratifying indiscriminately their sexual urges in
order that they assess more objectively a potential father of their
children. Women who were slower in sexual arousal were more likely
to be judicious in mate selection and, therefore, more likely to
survive. They were more likely to select men who would provide
food, clothing, shelter, and protection.
Accordingly, I believe that the average (I did not say all)
present-day woman is slower in sexual arousal than the average
man. Once aroused, however, a woman is more likely to attempt to
maintain an ongoing relationship with her mate. In contrast, the
average (I did not say all) present-day man is quicker in sexual arousal
than the average woman. Once gratified, he is less likely to be
desirous of maintaining the relationship. Most women would confirm
this statement in that the most common complaint single women have is
that men are less interested in "commitment" (the in-vogue
word for this phenomenon) than are women.
The old saying is applicable here: "Men are looking for girls,
and girls are looking for husbands." Men are on the
prowl. They are not only out hunting for prey to kill and eat, but
hunting for female prey to serve as sexual companions. I believe
that if one were able to create a printout of the average adult male's
sexual thoughts throughout the course of the day, they would be
formidable, especially printouts associated with day-to-day experiences
in which the individual is not fully preoccupied with work. One
would find that sexual thoughts would be associated with a large
percentage of the man's encounters with females from the teen period and
upward. These would involve some kind of sexual encounter.
Secretaries, stewardesses, nurses, receptionists, waitresses, and the
wide variety of other women that men inevitably encounter in the course
of their day become stimuli for such sexual fantasies.
Some confirmation of this "fantasy" of mine is found in
Shanor's (1978) study in which he found that men between ages 12 and 40
think of sex an average of six times per hour. But the
distribution over age ranges is not even. Between ages 12 and 19
the frequency is 20 times per hour (approximately once every
three minutes). Things slow down somewhat after that, so that
between ages 30 and 39 it is four times an hour.
In short, most men are extremely promiscuous (if not physically, at
least psychologically). The main difference between those to whom
this label is applied and those to whom it is not relates to the degree
to which the man overtly tries to gain gratification for these urges.
From the roving bands of men in heat, the woman must reject the large
majority or else she will find herself impregnated by a man who has
already gone on to the next cave or condo. She is much more
concerned with relationships. This phenomenon is one of the
factors involved in women having greater orgasmic capacity than
men. Although the woman is more likely to need caressing and
tender overtures to be aroused, once aroused she is more likely to
remain aroused longer. The male reaches his orgasm and immediately
goes into a refractory period ("zonks out," falls
asleep). The majority of women have the potential for multiple
orgasms. This serves the purpose of enhancing procreative
capacity. Her multiple orgasmic capacity enables her to "hang
in there longer" and ensure that the male who is slow to
ejaculation is likely to be sustained in his interest and involvement.
Finally, what I have said here is one explanation for the fact that
men are generally more likely to be sexually excited by visual stimuli,
whereas women are more likely to respond to tactile stimuli. The
roving bands of men spot their prey at a distance and can get excited
merely at the sight of a woman. This is in part a derivative of
their hunting functions and it also enlarges the potential population of
sexual partners. This phenomenon also explains the fact that it is
the men who stand around peering lasciviously at women, whereas it is
far less common for women to do this as obviously and
exhibitionistically as men. Many years ago there was a popular
song entitled, "Standing on the Corner, Watching the Girls Go
By." And it was not women who were standing on the corner,
but men!
Women, in contrast, need caressing, tenderness, and reassurance that
the man will remain around for supplying food and protection for herself
and her children. This is one of the reasons that men are more
likely than women to be sexually aroused by visual pornographic
material.
Dawkins's Theory of Gene Survival and Transmission
I wish to emphasize that the theory proposed below may very well have
been thought of previously by others. Although I have not either
read about nor heard about it from others, it rests heavily on one
proposed by Dawkins (1976). In fact, one might consider my theory
an extension of Dawkins's applied specifically to the various forms of
human sexual behavior. This theory, as is true of Dawkins's, rests
heavily on Darwinian theory especially the concepts of natural
selection and the survival of the fittest.
My theory, like Darwin's and Dawkins's, does not address itself to
such ultimate questions as those related to the forces (entities, God,
etc.) that created these principles and might very well be involved in
their implementation. It does not concern itself with how atoms
and molecules got to be here, nor with the origin of the principles that
govern their interactions, both simple and complex. Rather, it
concerns itself with the implementation of these entities and principles
and the physical manifestations of their interactions from the
simplest to the most complex levels, from the earliest to the most
recent. Nor does it concern itself with the ultimate purpose(s) of
all of this, considering the fact, for example, that all life on earth
will ultimately perish and that all forms of sexual behavior both
the "natural" and the "unnatural" varieties
will no longer serve any purpose, at least on this sphere, which we call
Earth.
It is well to begin at the beginning, which (as Maria in "The
Sound of Music" said) is a very good place to start. This
sphere, like many other celestial bodies in the universe, began with its
complement of elements, among which were to be found carbon, hydrogen,
oxygen, and nitrogen the fundamental building blocks of
life. Under the influence of environmental conditions (both
influences emanating from the sun as well as those in the intervening
space) simple molecules formed by atomic union. Most important for
the purposes of this discussion were water (H20), carbon
dioxide (C02), methane (CH4), and ammonia (NH4).
After exposure to ultraviolet light and electric currents (probably
related to primordial lightning), more complex molecules were formed
especially amino acids, the building blocks of proteins.
Scientists have been able to reproduce such transformations in a flask
by subjecting the aforementioned simple molecules to ultraviolet
radiation and electric currents. Laboratory simulations of the
chemical conditions on earth before the beginning of life (as we know
it) have produced organic substances such as purines and pyrimidines,
which are the building blocks of the genetic molecule DNA.
One can readily envision, then, a primordial "soup" in
which the simpler and more complex molecules floated. The main
method of production (or "creation") of the more complex
molecules was the exposure of the simpler ones to the environmental
conditions conducive to their formation. This method of formation
of complex molecules depends upon the influence of external forces and,
presumably, without their presence there would be no creation of the
more complex forms.
The next step was the one in which certain molecules exhibited the
capacity to reproduce themselves, a process that Dawkins (and others
certainly) refer to as replication. The method that appears
to have been most successful (in fact; it appears to be the only one on
Earth that we know of) was the one used by the DNA molecule.
This molecule, made of segments that are to be found floating around
in the primordial soup, reproduces itself by absorbing onto itself from
the surrounding mixture those particular building blocks that correspond
to those already strung on its helical (spiral) chain. The
original molecule serves as a mold or template. It attracts
corresponding smaller molecules from the soup, each free molecule
attached to its own kind on the original model. Ultimately, this
results in the formation of a clone of the original DNA molecule.
In the next step the two strands separate: Voilą,
reproduction! Each new strand then becomes a model for further
replications, thus producing geometric growth in population.
If all the DNA molecules were cloned from the original, there
would be few errors. However, with this kind of geometric
progression, in which each new DNA molecule becomes a template
for the reproduction of itself, there is a greater likelihood that
"errors" or alternative forms may result, each of which may
also survive. We have, then, the introduction of variety.
Some of the forms have a greater likelihood of survival than others,
depending upon the internal stability of the molecular chain.
Ultimately, the free-floating smaller molecules in the primordial
soup become scarce as they are used ("eaten up") in the
formation of the larger DNA molecules. Some sort of competition,
then, arises as the DNA molecules compete with one another for the ever
scarcer simpler radicals. The next step, according to Dawkins, was
basically the phase of cannibalism. Because of the scarcity of
free-floating smaller molecules in the primordial mixture, the DNA
strands began breaking off segments of their neighbors in order to be
provided with "food" for the replication process.
The next step and this was an extremely important one
was the formation by DNA molecules of protective coatings, a physical
wall that served as a kind of armor that protected the DNA strand from
being cannibalized by its neighbors. These entities (DNA strands,
surrounded by protective shells) are basically what we are talking about
when we discuss viruses. The protective shell is necessary for the
survival of the internal core of DNA. Dawkins refers to this
entity as a "survival machine," and this is the term he uses
for all subsequent living forms, the function of which is to provide a
housing for DNA molecules, especially with regard to their protection.
The next step involved the union of different types of DNA strands
(which I will now call genes) to combine their efforts in the service of
enhancing the likelihood of survival of the protective coating.
Each could serve a different function and thereby increase the
likelihood of survival over those with less complex mechanisms for
adaptation in the primordial soup. We see, then, the formation of
the simplest cells in which the genes are clustered together in the
nucleus and the survival wall being represented by the surrounding
cytoplasm and cell membrane (for animals) or cell wall (for
plants). Obviously, we are describing here one-cell animals and
plants.
The next step in the evolution of living forms was the bringing
together of individual cells into colonies. Here different parts
of the colonies could perform different functions enhancing,
thereby, the chances of the DNA surviving. Those cells that were
able to live together as colonies, each performing separate but unifying
functions, would be at an advantage over those cells that floated about
in isolation.
Dawkins then continues:
A major branch of survival machines, now called plants, started to
use sunlight directly themselves to build up complex molecules from
simple ones, reenacting at much higher speed the synthetic processes
of the original soup. Another branch, now known as animals,
"discovered" how to exploit the chemical labors of the
plants, either by eating them, or by eating other animals. Both
main branches of survival machines evolved more and more ingenious
tricks to increase their efficiency in their various ways of life, and
new ways of life were continually being opened up. Subbranches
and sub-subbranches of survival machines evolved more and more
ingenious tricks to increase their efficiency in their various ways of
life, and new ways of life were continually being opened up.
Subbranches and sub-subbranches evolved, each one excelling in a
particular specialized way of making a living: in the sea, on the
ground, in the air, underground, up trees, inside other living
bodies. This subbranching has given rise to the immense
diversity of animals and plants which so impresses us today.
Every survival machine, then, can be viewed as a colony of DNA
strands surrounded by successive layers of protective mechanisms.
Its purpose, however, is not simply to protect the genes from
cannibalistic destruction, but to provide mechanisms for the
reproduction of the DNA strands. Here we are talking about the
methods by which the particular form of life enables the DNA strands to
pass down from generation to generation, each time ridding itself of the
housing in which it temporarily resides and providing itself with a new
and temporary survival machine. Dawkins states:
Another aspect of the particulateness (sic) of the gene is that it
does not grow senile; it is no more likely to die when it is a million
years old than when it is only a hundred. It leaps from body to
body down the generations, manipulating body after body in its own way
and for its own ends, abandoning a succession of mortal bodies before
they sink in senility and death.
Although the gene itself is in a constant state of equilibrium with
surrounding atoms and smaller molecules available for its replication,
its basic structure and appearance is always the same. It can be
compared to a skyscraper that periodically and continually replaces its
bricks with others provided externally. Both new bricks and old
bricks are essentially immutable in that atoms do not "grow
old."
Each cell has the information necessary to re-create the whole
survival machine. Furthermore, it has the power to influence
various parts of the survival machine, especially with regard to the
protective mechanisms necessary for survival and the mechanisms
necessary for reproduction, i.e., transmission of DNA replications from
one temporary survival machine to the next and so on down the
generations.
The millions of' different kinds of plants and animals are testimony
to the wide variety of survival machines that have evolved over
eons. All the cells, all the tissues, all the organ systems, and
all the plants and animals that incorporate DNA molecules share in
common this one principle: the protection of the genes and their
transmission to the next generation.
The human brain is but one example of such a system. It is one
of the latest and most complex examples of a part of the housing machine
that protects the DNA as well as enhances the likelihood that it will be
transmitted to the next generation. Although designed by and in a
sense controlled by DNA, it has a certain autonomy of its own in that it
exerts some influence over the automatic control that genes have over
the survival machine, especially with regard to the time of expression
of the protective and procreative forces. For example, lower
animals appear to have no choice but to perform their specific mating
patterns at prescribed times and places. We have the ability to
suppress somewhat these cravings, but still are often obsessed with and
sometimes even enslaved by them.
As mentioned, Dawkins's theory could be considered the inevitable
extension of the Darwinian theory. The major determinant as to
whether a particular survival machine will indeed perform its functions
is related to the efficiency of the mechanisms devised for protecting
DNA and enabling it to transmit its replications down to form the next
generation of survival machines. There is selective survival of
those machines that are most likely to perform these functions in a
particular environment, and there is selective failure to survive (and
thereby destruction of DNA) of those housings that are less capable of
survival in the particular environment in which the genes find
themselves.
The Application of Dawkins's Theory to Human Sexual Variety
There is no problem applying Dawkins's theory to adult
heterosexuality. We can view the human body as the survival
machine for our sperm and ova, which are basically housings for our
DNA. The sexual act is the step by which DNA replications are
transmitted to the next generation of housing machines (our children).
All the things we do in our lives can be viewed as steps toward this
end. Just about every activity of our daily lives, throughout the
24-hour cycle, can be viewed as attempts to either protect and preserve
our DNA or as a step toward its transmission. Every meal we eat,
every breath we breathe, every penny we earn, every bit of work we do,
can easily be considered part of this grand plan. When we sleep,
we are recouping and saving up our energy for the next day's round of
survival activities. Other activities, which might initially be
considered exceptions to this principle, on careful inquiry may very
well be found to be related.
Everything we learn has the potential to serve us in the enhancement
of our capacity to survive, either immediately or remotely. Purely
scientific inquiry, although initially unrelated, might ultimately find
practical applications that serve human survival. What about art
and music? Here again they might not initially appear to fit this
scheme. However, art is used to enhance female and male
attractiveness (in clothing styles and cosmetics) and the artist, in
part, wants to impress the lady of his choosing. ("You must
come up to my place sometime and view my etchings.") Or, the
artist may wish to earn money, again in the service of providing himself
(herself) with food, clothing, and shelter which all serve in the
survival of the temporary machine in which the genes are housed.
Music can serve similar purposes, for both musician ("She will
certainly love me when she hears the music I have created") and the
listener ("I love him for the music he has created").
Pleasure, like sleep, is necessary for us when we need to recoup our
energies. When I try to think of examples of human endeavor that
might not fit under this grand rubric, I am unable to do so.
Accordingly, I will stop giving examples that support the theory and go
on to a discussion of the forms of sexuality that do not initially
appear to do so.
The atypical forms of sexuality those that may not initially
appear to serve the purposes of procreation all have a genetic
and an environmental contribution. The genetic contribution may
very well be the result of "gene error," the kind of error
that brings about a form of atypical sexual behavior. If a
mutation is not of survival value, it is not maintained for long in the
genetic pool and the housing in which it is incorporated is destroyed by
natural processes (both the housing and the DNA within decompensate and
in many cases are "eaten by worms"). The kinds of
atypical human sexuality discussed here are not in this category because
the human beings who exhibit these variations have definitely survived.
The combination of genetic predisposition and environmental
influences varies. Therefore, in some individuals the genetic
loading may be very high, so much so that little, if any, environmental
contribution is necessary for the quality to become exhibited. In
others the genetic contribution may be low, or even nonexistent;
however, environmental (especially family) influences are so formidable
that the sexual pattern becomes the primary mode of expression for that
individual. These two examples are the extremes and all
individuals who exhibit the particular sexual behavior can best be
viewed as lying at some point in between these two extremes.
I am in full agreement with Freud's (1905) theory of the
"polymorphous perversity" of the human infant. The
infant will exhibit every form of sexual activity known to
humanity. Each society suppresses those forms that it considers
unacceptable and allows expression of those that it considers
acceptable. However, residua of the unacceptable variations often
press for expression and may be found in various aspects of adult
sexuality, both typical and atypical. All, however, are natural
if one is to define the word as a sexual form of behavior that exists in
human beings, regardless of the particular society's attitude toward
that specific mode of sexual expression.
There is good reason to believe that most, if not all, children have
the capacity to reach orgasm at the time they are born. Certainly,
infnts in the first few months of life may rub their genitals as they
lie on their abdomens and their associated facial expressions are
strongly suggestive of orgasm. There are people who claim that
they cannot remember a time when they did not masturbate. And not
all of these people have been sexually abused as children.
Like all things in this world, there is a bell-shaped curve, and the
age at which people first experienced orgasms also lies on a bell-shaped
curve. Most people would date their first orgasm to the pubertal
period, but there are many who can go much further back. It is
reasonable to assume that there is a small fraction of the population
who, without any particular external stimulation (sexual molestation or
otherwise), normally experienced high sexual urges in early infancy and
found relief through masturbation. (Recently, sonograms have shown
baby boys holding their penises in utero.) This, too, is
"natural" and this, too, lends credibility to my belief that
children are not only naturally sexual but that they may be the
initiators of sexual activities. Although these overtures do not
initially serve procreative purposes, they ultimately do because the
child who is sexually active at an early age is more likely to be
sexually active in adolescence and thereby provide his or her DNA for
the next generation of survival machines.
The common childhood game, aptly called "You-Show-Me-Yours-and-I'll-Show-You-Mine"
is yet another example of childhood sexuality. Certainly curiosity
plays a role in such games. Parents begin teaching children, at a
very early age, that certain parts of their bodies are to be strictly
covered up and not to be exposed to others. Such prohibitions, of
course, engender enormous curiosity, a curiosity that can be satisfied
by voyeuristic/exhibitionistic games. But the games often go
beyond the visual level and frequently involve touching, even with
sexual excitation and intent. We see here the influence of DNA
already at work. I suspect (but I am not certain) that boys are
more interested than girls in these games because of the aforementioned
high visual loading to their sexual interest.
Another example: Little children often play with their genitals, even
to the point of orgasm. Furthermore, it is common for little girls
to smell their fingers after such play and they will often find the
odors enjoyable to sniff. Generally they will be taught by their
mothers that such a practice is unacceptable. Boys smelling their
fingers after touching their genitals is less common, but is the
analogous practice. This olfactory gratification is much more
highly developed in lower animals for whom scents play an important role
in sexual activity. Residua of this phenomenon certainly exist in
human adults. We recognize it as "normal" for men to
enjoy cunnilingus, a part of which pleasure comes from the olfactory
stimulation that such activity provides. And women as well (again,
in many segments of our society) enjoy immensely this activity.
Here again, we see the residua of a childhood form of sexuality
expressing itself in adult heterosexual behavior.
Moreover, orgasmic pleasure may very well be the most intense known
to the human being. The craving for this gratification is
extremely strong and, of course, is the driving force behind the
procreative process. The reduction of high sexual tensions and the
craving for orgasmic gratification is DNA's main method of bringing
about human reproductive activity and, by extension, its passage to the
next generation.
Another example: All agree that infants enjoy immensely the breast
feeding experience. Mothers in our society are encouraged to
express deep involvement in this practice and are permitted to speak
about how psychologically and physically pleasurable breast feeding
is. However, few women will speak openly about orgasmic
gratifications associated with the breast feeding of their
infants. It is more acceptable to describe breast stimulation
pleasure as part of adult heterosexual activities. It is also
acceptable to describe physical pleasure in association with a male
partner's breast sucking as part of foreplay. I am not claiming
that most women experience orgasms when breast feeding their
infants. I am only claiming that some women do, and that more
probably would if they were to overcome the social inhibitions against
such gratification.
Women's potential for pleasurable response to breast feeding serves
important biological purposes. It increases the likelihood that
she will breast feed her child, increasing thereby the likelihood that
her progeny will survive. It increases the likelihood that she
will want to breast feed subsequent babies, either her own or those of
others. It produces in general a heightened level of sexuality,
keeps the sexual juices flowing (not only the milk), and increases
thereby the likelihood that she will have heterosexual sexual
encounters. It increases also the likelihood that she will enjoy
her breasts being sucked by adult males during heterosexual
encounters. Her pleasure, which is a residuum of both her own
breast feeding in her own infancy (via projective identification with
her breast feeding infant) and the pleasurable sensation provided by the
sucking of her breasts, enhances the mans pleasure (via her
excitation). Residua of the man's breast feeding gratifications in
his own infancy also contribute to the pleasure experienced by the man
when engaging in breast sucking during the heterosexual encounter.
These residua, one in each of the parties, enhance the likelihood of
copulation and thereby the passage of DNA to the next generation.
It is important to understand that I am making no value judgments on
any of these sexual activities. Each society does this and our
society is no exception. My purpose is to present a valueless
explanation of these activities. The reader should recognize that
I, as a product of the society in which I live, have my biases,
prejudices, etc. but these arc irrelevant to this discussion.
The Paraphilias of DSM-III-R
At this point I address myself to each of the forms of atypical
sexuality described in DSM-III-R (American Psychiatric
Association, 1987). These are the forms of atypical sexuality that
are considered by the DSM-III-R nomenclature committee to be
manifestations of psychiatric disorder. It would be a naive reader
who is not appreciative of the fact that there is not a disorder here
that was not considered the norm in some other society at some time and
some place. This list, therefore, represents the beliefs and even
the biases of the nomenclature committee.
One confirmation of this point is the fact that homosexuality was
considered a bona fide disease in DSM-II (American Psychiatric
Association, 1968) and the previous DSM (American Psychiatric
Association, 1952) (which has no number and is now retrospectively
sometimes referred to as DSM-I). The authors of DSM-III
(American Psychiatric Association, 1980) took the position that if a
person is homosexual and wishes to change his or her orientation, then
the individual might then be considered to be suffering with a
psychiatric disorder and might thereby be justifiably treated for
such. To the best of my knowledge, this is the first time in the
history of medicine that patients themselves make the decision regarding
whether or not they have a disease. The homosexual person, then,
who was seeking treatment under DSM-III criteria had to
"enter through the back door" to qualify for a diagnosis under
this system.
In DSM-III-R homosexuality is not even listed as a disorder
per se. However, if one looks up the word in the index, there is a
reference under the very last of the list of sexual disorders:
"302.90 Sexual Disorder Not Otherwise Specified." Here
are listed sexual disorders that are not to be found listed in any of
the previous categories. Three examples are given, the third of
which is: "Persistent and marked distress about one's sexual
orientation." It is only here that a homosexual person
who is distressed about his or her sexual orientation can
justifiably be considered to have a disorder. It is of interest
that the just-quoted lines are the very last ones in the section on
sexual disorders.
To carry the back door analogy further, the homosexual person who is
entering treatment under the DSM-III-R provisions must creep
through a little trap door that is cut into the back door (the kind that
a dog might use). Enough said about the vicissitudes, biases, and
unreliability of DSM-III-R. I suspect strongly that DSM-IV
(which is scheduled for publication in 1993) will have yet another set
of theories regarding atypical sexuality.
A paraphilia is defined as a form of sexual expression that is
atypical or "off the beaten track." It is a sexual
activity that is found on a parallel track (thus the prefix "para"
[Greek: besides]), but is still a form of lovemaking (thus the word
"philia" [Greek: love]).
DSM-III-R considers the paraphilias to be "sexual
disorders," which is a more recent term for
"diseases." I will address myself to each of the
paraphilias, in the order in which they appear in DSM-III-R and
comment on each, especially with regard to the aforementioned
theory. I will give particular attention to the issue of the
"justification" for such atypical sexuality, especially with
regard to the question of its function and purpose if it does not serve
the immediate aims of reproduction and species survival. DSM-III-R
emphasizes that the paraphilic label is justified when the activity is
the primary or one of the primary sources of sexual gratification of the
individual. The label might not be justified if it exhibits itself
only rarely and is a minor part of the person's sexual repertoire.
The committee uses the six-month cut-off point for a duration that
justifies the diagnosis but, I am certain, recognizes this as somewhat
artificial.
Furthermore (and this is important), for each of the paraphilias
there is included an important diagnostic proviso: "The person has
acted on these urges, or is markedly distressed by them."
Therefore, if an individual is preoccupied with such urges, but has not
acted on them or is not markedly distressed by them, then they would not
be considered manifestations of a disorder. This presents us with
problems, especially from the point of view of a therapist who may be
consulted regarding treatment. These are strange kinds of
disorders indeed. They are disorders if acted on, but not
disorders if not acted on. They are disorders if the person is
distressed by them, but not if the person is comfortable with them.
Most would agree that a person who is preoccupied with suicidal
thoughts, but who has not acted out on them, warrants a diagnosis and
treatment. For the paraphilias, however, there appears to be an
exception to this principle. Also, the issue of distress presents
problems for the consultant who is being asked to make a decision
whether or not a disease is present. Most would agree that a
person who is not distressed by homicidal thoughts is still suffering
with a disease. Here again we have the problem attendant to the
patients making the decision regarding whether or not a disease is
present.
These problems lend confirmation to my belief that the nomenclature
committee has had significant difficulties with the paraphilias,
especially with regard to the question of whether or not they are indeed
diseases (or, to use the committee's euphemism,
"disorders"). Such ambivalence is relevant to my theory
about the etiology and purposes of the paraphilias.
My main point is that each of the paraphilias do, in a way, serve the
purposes of species survival and are therefore part of the natural
repertoire of humanity. They serve this end by their ability to
enhance the general level of sexual excitation in society and thereby
increase the likelihood that people will involve themselves in
activities that are more directly contributory to the reproductive (and,
by extension, species survival) process. I recognize that for each
of the paraphilias there are a wide variety of psychodynamic mechanisms
that may be operative in producing the behavior. However, it is
not my purpose here to discuss these in detail. Rather, I will
only discuss those psychodynamic aspects that pertain to the
aforementioned theory.
Exhibitionism is defined as:
Over a period of at least six months, recurrent intense sexual
urges and sexually arousing fantasies involving the exposure of one's genitals
to an unsuspecting stranger.
Although exhibitionism is primarily a male characteristic in its
"raw form" (that is, as exhibited by "flashers"), it
exists in women in more subtle form. Seductive gesturing,
provocative dancing (not necessarily by burlesque queens and go-go
girls), and hysterical behavior generally involve some degree of
exhibitionistic sexuality. Accordingly, when one considers these
common forms of female exhibitionism, the behavior is much more common
among women than men.
Although the flasher may wish to startle and gain a sense of power
and importance, much more than arouse sexuality, there is still that
element operative in this clearly sexual act. And although the
exhibitionistic woman may want flattery and attention, more than sexual
gratification, the activity is still a form of foreplay and may very
well lead to more overt sexual activity. For both sexes the
behavior is designed (at least in part) to produce sexual hormone
secretions into the bloodstream of the observer and enhance thereby the
likelihood of sexual activity and reproduction.
We have strict rules in our society regarding when and where one can
be sexually exhibitionistic. Furthermore, exhibitionism is more
acceptable in women than in men. The principle is well
demonstrated by the old observation: If a woman undresses in front of a
window, a man in the street looking at her may be charged with being a
voyeur ("peeping Tom"). In contrast, if a man undresses
in front of a window and a woman in the street looks at him, he may be
charged with exhibitionism (indecent exposure). These differences
in social attitude notwithstanding, exhibitionism serves survival value
in that it provides visual stimuli that result in the kinds of hormonal
secretions that may result in procreation.
Fetishism is defined as:
Over a period of at least six months, recurrent intense sexual
urges and sexually arousing fantasies involving the use of nonliving
objects by themselves (e.g., female undergarments).
The fetishes are not only articles of female clothing used in
cross-dressing (Transvestic Fetishism) or devices designed for the
purpose of tactile gental stimulation (vibrator).
Here, too, the same principles hold. Often the object may be
used in place of "the real thing" when sexual encounters with
humans ate not available. The fetishistic object may become the
symbol of the human sexual object and bring about the same degree of
excitation.
Fetishism not only serves the purposes of sexual release, but also
lessens the likelihood of the sexual organs "drying up."
The practice thereby keeps sexual cravings alive and increases the
possibility of reproduction. Even the person who may fear sexual
encounters at that point, and uses the fetishistic object as a
substitute, is keeping himself or herself in the pool of sexually
craving individuals and thereby increases the likelihood of species
survival. Here again we see the principle that some of the
fetishistic objects (such as vibrators) are borrowed from normal
sexuality but are considered pathological when they are used in
preference to the interpersonal type of sexual experience. I trust
that the DSM-III-R committee did not consider the use of
vibrators per se to warrant the diagnosis of fetishism and recognized
that their use as a "sexual aid" is "normal."
Frotteurism is defined as:
Over a period of at least six months, recurrent intense sexual
urges and sexually arousing fantasies involving touching and rubbing
against a nonconsenting person. It is the touching, not the
coercive nature of the act, that is sexually exciting.
These are the people who rub up against others in subways, buses,
elevators, and other crowded places. They are people who are
considered to be getting their "cheap thrills" in a socially
unacceptable way. Once again, men are far more likely than women
to be involved in this paraphilia and, once again, they are most often
the initiators. This is consistent with the male being genetically
programmed to play the more aggressive role in mating pattern rituals.
Women, however, cannot be considered to be completely free of this
disorder. As every frotteur knows, there are a certain fraction of women
who will not immediately recoil and withdraw, and thereby get across the
message that they have no wish to participate in this activity. In
spite of "rejections" by the majority of women, there are
still enough around who will go along with the secret game and thereby
gratify their own frotteuristic cravings without suffering social
stigma.
I once interviewed a man who was a frotteur and who claimed that
approximately 25% of all the women against whom he rubbed his penis
responded. Most allowed him to masturbate himself against them,
using the motions of the moving vehicle as the cover-up for their own
more active participation in the process. Some even rubbed their
vulvas against him, thereby gratifying themselves as well. On a
few occasions the activity ultimately resulted in their going off
together for a sexual encounter. Frotteurism also serves survival
purposes. It increases the general level of sexual excitation and
thereby increases the likelihood of sexual reproduction.
Pedophilia is defined as:
Over a period of at least six months, recurrent intense sexual
urges and sexually arousing fantasies involving sexual activity with a
prepubescent child or children (generally age 13 or younger).
The person is at least 16 years old and at least 5 years older than
the child or children in A.
Note: Do not include a late adolescent involved in an
ongoing sexual relationship with a 12- or 13-year-old.
It is obvious that the DSM-III-R nomenclature committee had
great difficulty with this definition. The requirement that the
person be "at least 16 years old" presents problems if a
15½-year-old boy has a sexual experience with a 5-year-old girl.
Although he has satisfied the requirement that there be at least a
5-year age difference between the two, he would not be considered a
pedophile by this definition. In contrast, the jury before whom he
is tried for this act (and for which he might get life imprisonment)
might very well consider him to be a pedophile. Actually, the DSM-III-R
committee is not alone here. There is no good definition of
pedophilia.
Whatever definition one uses, there are loopholes. One must
make exceptions, such as the DSM-III-R committee did. If
one uses the dictionary definition, i.e., a sexual act between an adult
and a child, one is immediately confronted with the problem of what
constitutes an adult and what constitutes a child. Does adulthood
begin at puberty, at 16, at 18, at 21? All of these ages (and
others) have been used at various times by different societies (and even
within the same society) as a cutoff point for the definition of adulthood.
If one wants to use puberty as the point of differentiation, there
are still difficulties. If a postpubertal 13-year-old has sex with
a prepubertal 11-year-old, is that pedophilia? Most would say
no. If a postpubertal 11-year-old has a sexual activity
with a prepubertal 13-year-old, is the younger one then
considered to have sexually molested the older? Again, we see that
there is no end to the complications with any of these
definitions. All of them attempt to define the parameters of
unacceptability (whether psychiatric/diagnostic or legal/criminal) and
all fail.
Basically, the definition of a pedophile for a psychiatrist is what
the nomenclature committee of the American Psychiatric Association
considers to be a pedophile for that particular edition of DSM.
And the definition by the legal system is not only the one recorded in
the statutes of the particular state (and there is great variation), but
what the jury decides is pedophilia on the basis of the evidence
presented at the accused's trial.
Pertinent to my theory here is that pedophilia also serves
procreative purposes. Obviously, it does not serve such purposes
on the immediate level in that children cannot become pregnant nor can
they make others pregnant. However, the child who is drawn into
sexual encounters at an early age is likely to become highly sexualized
and crave sexual experiences during the prepubertal years. Such a
"charged up child" is more likely to become sexually active
after puberty and more likely, therefore, to transmit his or her genes
to his or her progeny at an early age.
The younger the survival machine at the time sexual urges appear, the
longer will be the span of procreative capacity, and the greater the
likelihood the individual will create more survival machines in the next
generation. The ideal then from DNA's point of view
is for the child to be sexually active very early, to have a highly
sexualized childhood, and begin the time of puberty. This
increases the likelihood that more survival machines will be produced
for the next generation.
Sexual Masochism is defined as:
Over a period of at least six months, recurrent intense sexual
urges and sexually arousing fantasies involving the act (real, not
simulated) of being humiliated, beaten, bound, or otherwise made to
suffer.
Sexual Sadism is defined as:
Over a period of at least six months, recurrent intense sexual
urges and sexually arousing fantasies involving acts (real, not
simulated) in which the psychological or physical suffering (including
humiliation) of the victim is sexually exciting to the person.
Sexual masochism is intrinsically associated with sexual
sadism. In fact, the two together are often referred to as
sadomasochism. Accordingly, the two will be discussed together.
Clearly, sadomasochism allows gratification of hostile impulses for
the sadist. The motives for the masochist are not so obvious, but from
the psychological point of view the individual is gaining some kind of
gratification. For some people masochism alleviates their guilt over sexual
expression. Punishment can assuage guilt. Some people need the
punishment afterward, and some before, and some at the time of the
guilt-provoking act. Masochism may relate to identification with
masochistic models, the feeling that this is the best that one can get,
that more benevolent relationships would not be possible, and other
psychological mechanisms that are beyond my purposes here.
Sadomasochism may also have survival value. Sexual courtship patterns
in our society have often been compared to a "hunt." The man,
traditionally more assertive (there is some genetic programming here,
although environmental factors are certainly operative), seeks his
"prey," the woman. If successful, he may consider himself to
have made a "conquest." The woman's role is generally one of
passivity, coyness, and seductivity in which she lures the man to
approach her and make sexual advances. (Again, genetic factors play an
important role, although environmental ones are certainly operative.)
Domination enters here and, in extreme cases, rape.
Therefore, we see a continuum from the normal courting pattern of
female passivity and male aggressivity to the more aggressive forms of
sexual approach and domination, with a culmination in rape the extreme
example of domination. Every point on this continuum increases the
likelihood that the woman will engage in a sexual act and thereby
procreate.
Our society encourages women to be seductive, coy, and enticing and
encourages men to be forthright, aggressive, and pursuing. The more
coercive elements enter into the male's behavior, the greater the
likelihood our society will condemn him. The theme of pursuit and
domination, however, is widespread. Many years ago I read a survey in
which women were asked about their favorite movie scene. The one that
took first place was a scene from "Gone with the Wind" in
which Rhett Butler, overcome with sexual passion and frustration, grabs Scarlett
O'Hara, picks her up in his arms, and runs up the stairs into
the house and presumably up to the bedroom.
We accept this as normal, but we will not accept more coercive
elements. This reflects society's repression of the animal within us: a
male animal who has the potential for rape and a female animal who, by
merely a small extension of permissible attitudes, may become
masochistic thereby gaining sexual pleasure from being beaten, bound,
and otherwise made to suffer.
It may very well be that for some masochistic women, allowing
themselves to be beaten into submission is the price they are willing to
pay for gaining the gratification of receiving the sperm. When less
aggressive partners are not available, partners who don't take the
domination factor too far, they will accept sperm from a sadistic
individual, rather than not have any sperm at all.
I am placing no value judgments on these behaviors. Rather, I am
trying to explain the purposes of certain forms of sexual behavior which
are found in every society and which are dealt with differently by each
society, and even by the same society at different times. Their ubiquity
is a testament to the fact that they are natural, i.e., they are part
of the human repertoire. We should not let our revulsion and
condemnation of them interfere with our ability to understand them. In
fact, it is through such understanding that we will be in a better
position to decide how to deal with these atypical forms, both from the
psychiatric and legal points of view.
Transvestic Fetishism is defined as:
Over a period of at least six months, in a heterosexual male,
recurrent intense sexual urges and sexually arousing fantasies involving
cross-dressing.
The previous comments about fetishism are applicable to transvestic
fetishism. In this form of fetishism the objects that cause the sexual
arousal are not only female clothing, but cross-dressing, a particular
use of female clothing. As noted in the DSM-III-R definition, these men
are usually heterosexual, are sexually aroused by wearing female attire,
and are thereby more likely to engage in heterosexual activities
increasing thereby the likelihood of procreation and the
passage of their DNA down to the next generation.
It may come as a surprise to learn that the majority of transvestic
fetishists are heterosexual. Certainly, there are homosexuals who wear
female clothing as a way of attracting men for sexual purposes. However,
these people are different from transvestic fetishists. Female
impersonators are probably the most well-known examples of transvestic
fetishists. With rare exception, they are heterosexual. It is of
interest that DSM-III-R does not have a pathological category for
homosexual men who cross-dress, but only heterosexual men. This is just
one of the paradoxes that is to be found in DSM-III-R, a paradox that
derives from the diagnostic problems attendant to removing homosexuality
from the list of psychiatric disorders.
Voyeurism is defined as:
Over a period of at least six months, recurrent intense sexual urges
and sexually arousing fantasies involving the act of observing an
unsuspecting person who is naked, in the process of disrobing, or
engaging in sexual activity.
Voyeurism is much more common in men than women. This is not
surprising since men are much more likely to be excited by visual
stimuli than women. It is the men who stand on the street corner leering
at the women passersby. It is men who are much more likely to be
sexually excited by pin-up magazines, pornographic movies, and
videotapes.
As mentioned above, this phenomenon relates to the hunter qualities
that are much more apparent in males than females. Traditionally, men
were the hunters and protectors. It was they who went out to kill animal prey and
thereby provide food for their families. Hunting involves (and even
requires) visual surveillance. And hunting animals for food is akin to
hunting women for procreative purposes. Similar male attributes are
involved. It is reasonable to speculate that there was a selective
survival of men who were visually powerful and who were good at hunting
prey for food and females for procreative purposes. We see here, then,
an overlap with the domination element applicable to the understanding
of sadomasochism.
DSM-III-R then lists seven other paraphilias that are not only less
common, but would probably be considered more pathological than the
aforementioned. They all share in common, however, their capacity to
enhance sexual arousal and to thereby increase the likelihood of
heterosexual experience.
Telephone Scatologia (Lewdness)
The man who involves himself in telephone scatologia (lewdness) is
clearly trying to arouse a woman. (It is rare for women to engage in
this kind of activity.) Although one may claim that the man so involved
is basically afraid of women (and this is probably the case), he is
still getting sexually aroused by the practice, even though the arousal
often culminates only in masturbation. There are occasions in which the
woman is receptive and the overture ultimately results in heterosexual
activities and therefore procreation. But even when this aim is not
realized (certainly more often the case), the man is still keeping his
"juices flowing" and preventing them from drying up and
thereby removing himself from the heterosexual potentially procreative
scene.
Necrophilia (Corpses)
One could argue that necrophilia cannot possibly serve procreative
purposes. I am in agreement that a dead woman is not going to conceive a
child, but this is only half the story.
Obviously, a man who must resort to having sexual intercourse with
dead bodies has serious difficulties in his ability to relate well to
live human beings. (Again, it is not my purpose here to discuss in
detail the many possible psychological factors that are operative in each
of these activities.) Yet, the necrophiliac is still keeping his juices flowing and increasing, thereby, the likelihood of
heterosexual involvement with a person who is more likely to conceive.
(For obvious reasons, necrophilia is almost unknown in females.)
Partialism (Exclusive Focus on Part of Body)
The factors operative here are very similar to those operative in
fetishism. For reasons peculiar to that individual, a particular part of
the body becomes the primary source of gratification. However, this
symptom is not a strange one, considering the fact that all men (and to
a lesser extent women) engage in it to a certain degree.
Men's breast fetish is probably the most well known example of this
phenomenon. This preoccupation stems, in part, from the fact that the
breast is the first "sex object" of the male (at least according to
Freudian theory) and we live in a society in which breasts are indeed
worshiped. Furthermore, we enhance the importance of these organs (which
are basically bags of fatty tissue intermingled with milk ducts) by
social conditioning. Covering them, under most circumstances, makes them
more alluring, seductive, and therefore objects of interest. There are
men who are similarly turned on by buttocks and vulvas. Women are far
less likely to exhibit this symptom. This is in part related to their
being less aroused by visual stimuli and more aroused by caressing,
cuddling, and activities that ensure the kind of depth relationship that
will increase the likelihood that the lover will stay around after
conception and provide protection for themselves and their children.
Zoophilia (Animals)
Zoophilia, which is reputed to be a traditional activity among farm
boys, also provides for sexual release when other outlets are not
available. It may also be attractive to those who may have fears and
inhibitions regarding overtures to females who are more unpredictable
than animals regarding their sexual receptivity.
Contrary to popular opinion, zoophilics do not generally have sexual
intercourse with animals; rather, their main source of gratification
comes from hugging, cuddling, and talking in a manner similar to a child
with a pet. The zoophilia then represents a fixation at an earlier
level of psychosexual development. Although progeny are obviously not
possible from such relationships, the individuals engaged in such
zoophilic activities might be considered to be getting practice for more
appropriate partners for the purposes of evolutionary survival.
Coprophilia (Feces)
Once again, one cannot ascribe immediate survival value to this
practice. It is a derivative, however, of the polymorphous perversity of
children who have to learn that touching their fecal eliminations and
then putting their fingers (or feces) in their mouths is generally
viewed in our society as a disgusting practice. Here, too, this
enhancement of sexual stimulation increases the likelihood that the
individual may turn to others and thereby contribute to the procreative
process.
To the best of my knowledge, most people who are involved in
coprophilic activities do not actually engage in putting feces into their
mouths (although a small percentage do); rather, the activities most
often involve defecating on one's "loved one." The term also
refers to the partner who becomes sexually excited by being defecated
upon. Coprophilia is also related to sadomasochism in that the person
who enjoys this activity is often involved in a sadomasochistic act with
domination/submission and hostile release ("shitting on
someone").
Klismaphilia (Enemas)
Anal stimulation in itself can provide sexual pleasure. Most people
enjoy the gratification of a "good bowel movement," although
it is not considered proper to talk about it in most circles. Furthermore,
deep anal penetration, beyond the anus, can produce stimulation of the
pubococcygeal muscles, which play an active role in orgasm for both
males and females. Hence, an enema can be to the anus what the vibrator
is to the vagina. Association of the enema with mothers who provided them
in childhood may play a role in producing this type of sexual behavior.
What is important here is the fact that this kind of stimulation may
serve as a prelude to heterosexual intercourse and thereby contribute to
procreative purposes.
Urophilia (Urine)
One could argue that urophilia cannot possibly serve procreative
purposes. There are children who continue wetting their beds
beyond the
time when they should be "trained" because they like the warm
feeling the urine gives them when first passed. Of course, when it gets
cold, they change their attitude about this practice. Here, again, the
most common activity is not drinking urine (but a small percentage do),
but urinating on the "lover." And there are those who become
sexually excited by being urinated upon. This practice is analogous to
coprophilia and relates to sadomasochism. Once again, the arousal may
serve as a part of foreplay and ultimately result in procreative sexual
acts.
Further Comments on the Paraphilias
It would be an error to conclude that I view the paraphilias to be
primarily, if not exclusively, genetically determined biological
variants. Although I believe there is a genetic loading for the
paraphilias, I also believe that environmental factors are extremely
important in bringing about such behavior. In fact, I believe
environmental factors play a more important role in the development of
the paraphilias than in the development of homosexuality, which, as is
discussed below, warrants being listed as one of the paraphilias. I say
this because of the bizarreness of many of the paraphilias, a
bizarreness which is akin to the kinds of "craziness" that
justifies placement in DSM-III-R.
Many of the paraphilias are developed in an attempt to avoid
intimacy, e.g., fetishism, telephone scatologia, partialism, zoophilia,
and necrophilia. Others clearly allow for the release of hostility,
which may be a more important factor than the sexual act that is serving
as a vehicle for such gratification, e.g., sexual sadism, coprophilia,
urophilia, and klismaphilia. Others derive from feelings of inadequacy,
e.g., voyeurism, exhibitionism, sexual sadism, and pedophilia.
Obviously, the psychodynamic factors operative in each of the
paraphilias are quite complex and it goes beyond the scope of this
article to discuss these in detail. Even the aforementioned outline is
an oversimplification in that there is much overlap and complexity to
the many psychodynamic factors operative in each of the paraphilias.
One could argue that psychodynamically determined sexual inhibitions (which
may contribute to the development of paraphilias) result from
psychological problems that work against the expression of the primary
sexual goals of DNA. Accordingly, one could claim that the very existence
of the paraphilias weakens my theory. My response is this: Each of the
paraphilias may be viewed as an atypical variant, as a mutant that does
not primarily serve the purposes of procreation, but that may survive
anyway because it can contribute (admittedly in an inefficient way) to
the primary DNA goals.
Similarly, the psychological inhibitions that interfere with DNA's
primary expression also work against its goals, but not completely so.
The fact that some forms fail to live up to the high standards put down
in the optimum configuration of genetic programming does not negate the
theory. My reasoning here is similar to that which holds for the sexual
dysfunctions (see below) in which there are failures of genital
functioning, which may then interfere with the procreative process. The
presence of these weaknesses or abnormalities does not negate the
theory.
Sexual Dysfunctions
The sexual dysfunctions are essentially forms of pathology in which
there is some inhibition and/or impairment in the individual's capacity
to engage in heterosexual intercourse. A psychogenic component is
considered to be important in bringing about such disorders, but
physiological factors may also be operative, especially in the presence
of physical disease. These include impairments in sexual desire,
aversion to sexuality, impairment in the ability of a man to attain or
maintain an erection, a man or a woman's inability to achieve orgasm,
premature ejaculation, dyspareunia (pain on sexual intercourse), and
vaginismus (vaginal spasm on penile entry). Clearly, all of these
difficulties interfere with the likelihood of procreation and thereby
warrant being included as disorders or "diseases."
Obviously, they do represent a failure in the fulfillment of the
individual's capacity to achieve this important goal. The presence of
these disorders in no way weakens my theory in that there is no
biological function (all of which have survival value) that may not be
compromised by some disease process.
Should Homosexuality be Listed Among the Paraphilias?
As mentioned above, the last DSM-III-R section on the sexual
disorders allows for the diagnosis of homosexuality (as a sexual
disorder) through the "little doggie door," a subsection of
the "back door" of the sexual diagnoses. I, myself, would
include homosexuality as one of the paraphilias, whether or not one
considers any or all of them to warrant placement in DSM-III-R (I
believe that political factors, much more than scientific, determined
its strange and somewhat confusing placement in the manual.)
The argument, however, that homosexuality is "unnatural"
because it does not serve procreative purposes is not valid. It
certainly is a natural variant, is within the potential of all human
beings, and to the best of my knowledge has appeared in every society.
Furthermore, as I will elaborate below, it also serves the procreative
aims of the species, although not directly.
There are some who claim that the purpose of homosexuality is similar
to that of nonreproductive variants that are to be found in many
species. Worker ants would be an example. They play an important role in
the survival of the ant colony, but are not actively involved in the
reproductive process. The argument is also proposed that homosexuals
serve artistic purposes in that they are traditionally more artistically
sensitive (art, literature, dance, theater, etc.). This theory never
rang true for me in that these activities are very recent developments
in the history of the human race and would not explain the existence of
homosexuality at earlier times and the survival of genes that may very
well predispose people to this type of sexual variation.
Although the homosexual genetic loading may very well have arisen as
a mutation (as may have been the case for other paraphilias for which
there is a high genetic loading), it has survived. There is great
variation among mutations with regard to their survival capacity. Some
mutants are incompatible with life and the particular form dies in
utero. And there are a wide variety of diseases that are manifestations
of mutations that can be lethal at any age and at any stage of life.
If
the mutation allows survival beyond puberty, then the individual is
likely to transmit the mutant genes down to the next generation. Medical
science may contribute to this process by allowing for the survival of
certain mutations that in earlier centuries might not have survived to
the pubertal level of development but, as the result of modern medical
techniques, are doing so. This is just another example of the fact that medical progress may
often be a mixed blessing.
Another theory to justify homosexuality is that it serves the
purposes of population control. Although this theory has more to justify
it than the one that holds that homosexuals serve artistic purposes, it
also does not set well with me. Nonreproductive variants usually serve
some purpose, a purpose that is readily recognized. This does not appear
to be the case for homosexuals.
We are certainly witnessing a population explosion that is becoming
ever more serious, and even dangerous. There is no question that we will
ultimately have to provide more effective methods of population control
than exist at this point. The longer we allow population to grow
geometrically, the greater the weight one will have to give to this
theory of the purpose of homosexuality. Perhaps at this point, when the
dangers are not as grave, it is a less compelling theory. But acceptance
of it must presuppose considerations (by DNA or some master planner) that
go very much into the future. And this does not appear to be the way
DNA works. It is very much oriented to the here-and-now for the purposes
of immediate transmission to the next survival machine. Impulsivity and
pleasure-of-the-moment considerations appear to be much more pertinent
factors
in its behavior than considerations of some remote future event. It is
for these reasons, as well, that I am not significantly enthusiastic
about the population-control theory of homosexuality
Homosexual genetic programming has survived not only because we have
not routinely killed all homosexuals (although certain societies have
attempted to do so), but because homosexuals have not confined
themselves sexually to people of their own sex, but have engaged in
heterosexual activities as well. In fact, it is safe to say that the
vast majority of homosexuals have had some heterosexual experiences.
It
is also a fact that male homosexuals are typically highly sexualized
individuals, much more so than the average male heterosexual, and are
well known for their "promiscuity," i.e., their strong need
for frequent sex with a large number of sexual partners. Male
homosexuals also will typically date the onset of their strong sexual urges
to earlier periods of life than heterosexuals (Kinsey et al. 1948; Tripp,
1987). Homosexuality; then, if my theory is correct, serves the purpose
of heightening the general level of sexual activity and increases the
chances, thereby, that such individuals may involve themselves in
heterosexual activities as well.
Homosexuality also increases the likelihood that children will become
involved earlier in sexual activities, increasing thereby the likelihood
of their becoming actively sexual in the postpubertal period. I am
referring here to the homosexual who is also a pedophile (again, much
more common in males than females). Like his heterosexual pedophilic
counterpart, both contribute to the likelihood that children will become
active heterosexual adults.
When I presented the above theory to a colleague of mine, Dr.
Jonathan Greene, he suggested that homophobia may also have survival
value. Homophobes are revolted by homosexuality and may actively attempt
to constrain their behavior. In extreme cases they may even attempt to
eliminate homosexuals entirely. One traditional explanation for
homophobia given by psychoanalysts is that homophobes are basically
uncomfortable with their own unconscious or dimly conscious homosexual
urges. By eliminating homosexuality they protect themselves from the
stimulation of their own "latent homosexual impulses."
I do not deny that this may certainly be a mechanism in some (if not
many) homophobic individuals. And, I do not deny that there are probably
other psychological mechanisms operative in this aversion. Nor do I deny
social influences that teach that homosexuality is an undesirable and
even disgusting form of sexual expression. However, Greene has a good
point in that homophobia has survival value in that a society cannot
tolerate ubiquitous homosexuality. To do so would threaten its very
survival. On a very primitive level, then, the battle between
homosexuals and heterosexuals is a battle for DNA survival, even though
homosexuality in a more indirect way does ultimately contribute to DNA
survival. It is an inefficient method, however, and a society has to
limit the degree to which it can tolerate inefficient methods of
reproduction. And all paraphilias are inefficient when compared to the
traditional heterosexual reproductive modes.
One could argue, then, that homosexuality justifiably belongs among
the paraphilias. It certainly satisfies the basic requirement for such
inclusion, namely, that the sexual behavior is atypical (practiced only
by a minority of individuals in our society) and that it does not
directly serve procreative purposes.
One could also argue that all of the paraphilias (whether or not one
wants to include in them homosexuality) should not be included in DSM-III-R
because the manual is devoted primarily to diseases.
Although the term disorder is used, insurance companies still
consider these variations diseases or illnesses. Exclusion of the
paraphilias might deprive paraphilic individuals of the opportunity for
insurance coverage if they want treatment for them.
Should we therefore consider the insurance companies to be the final
arbiters with regard to whether or not a behavioral manifestation
warrants inclusion in DSM-III-R? DSM-III-R deals with this question
somewhat obliquely by stating that in addition to the paraphilic
behavioral manifestation, the individual must be "markedly
distressed" by the desire to engage in the sexual practice. This,
then, brings us back to the problem of patients making the decision
whether or not the disease in fact exists. As a physician I would like
to believe that a disease exists in its own right, separate from whether
or not the patient considers it to exist and separate from whether or
not an insurance company decides to provide coverage.
One could argue that something must be seriously deranged in a man
who would prefer to have intercourse with a dead body in comparison to a
beautiful young woman. One could argue that there must be something
seriously wrong with a man who would spurn sexual intercourse with an
attractive and receptive young woman and, in preference, put his penis
into the anus of another man. When we say that "something is wrong
with" a person who engages in certain activities, we are basically
saying that the individual is suffering with a psychiatric disorder.
One could argue also that the probable genetic predisposition factor,
a factor related to a mutation, also argues for the paraphilias to be
considered psychiatric disorders. There are other psychiatric disorders
that are considered to have a genetic basis, e.g., bipolar disorder and
obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). These certainly are
"natural" in that they are to be found in nature, yet they are
still considered to be diseases (or, euphemistically,
"disorders").
It is a strange paradox that pedophilia is included as a paraphilia,
but not homosexuality. If an adult's primary source of sexual
gratification is an individual of the same sex, the behavior is not
considered to warrant inclusion among the paraphilias (or anywhere else
in DSM-III-R). However, if the adult desires sex with a child (whether
of the same or opposite sex), that behavior is considered to warrant
inclusion among the paraphilias. This paradox lends confirmation to my
previous statement that the exclusion of homosexuality from DSM-III-R has much more to do with political than psychiatric
considerations.
Another paradox derives from DSM-III-R's exclusion of
homosexuality,
namely, its considering cross-dressing among heterosexuals to be a
disorder (Transvestic Fetishism) but not a disorder if the individual is
homosexual. Therefore, if a homosexual cross-dresses to entice and
excite another homosexual, that is normal. If a heterosexual engages in
such behavior he or she has a disorder.
An even more important paradox is the inclusion of the Gender
Identity Disorder of Childhood. There is an enormous body of research
that demonstrates compellingly the high correlation between childhood
gender identity disorder and homosexuality during adulthood. Some of the
more well known studies are Bell and Weinberg (1978); Bell, Weinberg,
and Hammersmith (1981); Bieber et al. (1962); Green (1985, 1987); Money
and Russo (1979); and Zuger (1970, 1976, 1984). Friedman (1988) provides
an excellent review of these studies and states, "At present, I
believe that this is the only correlation between psychopathology and
homosexuality that may be taken as an established fact."
We see here a strange inconsistency in DSM-III-R. An effeminate boy is
considered by DSM-III-R to be suffering with a disorder.
Yet, when this same boy becomes an adult homosexual (a highly
likely outcome), he no longer is considered to have a disorder; rather,
his atypicality is viewed as a normal human variant. Again, I believe
that political considerations, far more than psychiatric, have brought
those who have made this decision to this inexplicable and even absurd
inconsistency;
Although I could argue both ways, my preference is that all the
paraphilias (including homosexuality) be included in DSM-III-R as
paraphilias and, like bipolar depression and OCD, be considered diseases
(or disorders) per se. I would exclude the proviso that the individual
has to have distress in order to justify the diagnosis. The fact is that
the person is not going to go into treatment if he or she does not
suffer distress, the DSM-III-R statement notwithstanding. Atypicality,
per se, has traditionally been a justification for inclusion in a list
of psychiatric disturbances. There are societies in which paranoia and
hallucinations are the norm. There are others in which catatonic people
may be worshiped and/or considered to be invested by divine spirits.
As
Shakespeare's Hamlet put it: "There's nothing either good or bad,
but thinking makes it so."
Because atypical sexuality is "bad" in our society and
because people who exhibit such behavior are going to have difficulties
in our society, even though often (but not always) unjustified, we must
make special provisions for dealing with them, both in the legal and
psychiatric professions.
Concluding Comments
I present here a theory that attempts to bring together a wide human
sexual phenomena and provide a common explanation for what may initially
appear to be different disorders. Although each of these types of human
sexual activity has its own set of causes (both genetic and
environmental), they share in common the thread that they all
potentially serve the ends of procreation (directly or indirectly), and
therefore specifically the transmission of DNA down to the next survival
machine.
Freud (1930), in his Civilization and Its Discontents, points out
that society must suppress and repress sexuality if any constructive
work is to be done. If all individuals were free to indulge themselves
in any form of sexual encounter, we would have little time to involve
ourselves in the constructive work necessary for the survival of
society. Gibbon (1776-1788) considers widespread licentiousness to have
been an important factor in the decline of the Roman Empire. The
biblical story of God's destructions of the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah
is certainly (at least) a metaphor for the same phenomenon. It may very
well be true, as well, that intrafamilial sex, especially, had to be
suppressed because of the rivalries it engendered.
Certainly most people in our society (sexual revolution
notwithstanding) view sex as a special kind of relationship. This is
especially true of women, who are much more oriented to the emotional
relationship element in sex. Women are much more oriented toward sexual
exclusivity. The opposite side of the exclusivity coin is
jealousy. Men,
too, are not free from such jealous feelings, especially when another
man has sexual opportunities with a woman with whom they are enamored.
If it is true that such feelings are of ancient tradition and may have
even existed in primitive times, then taboos against incest might have
arisen in order to protect people from the devastating effects on the
family of such jealous rivalries. Inhibitions have a way of spreading,
often to areas that were not part of the central focus at the time of their origin, and
this is what might have happened with regard to the widespread sexual
inhibitions that we observe in Western society today.
It is unlikely that inhibitions against incest arose from the
appreciation that inbreeding may bring about the clinical expression of
recessive genes and thereby produce an increase in maladaptive forms.
First, this is a relatively late development in our understanding.
In
fact, it is probable that the relationship between sexual intercourse
and pregnancy has only recently become understood, and this is
especially likely to have been the case in societies in which a wide
variety of sexual practices were engaged in at all ages. Furthermore,
when a family is relatively free of undesirable genes, inbreeding can be
beneficial in that it preserves the "purity" of the strain.
I am
certain that a wide variety of other factors have been involved in the
development of sexual inhibitions, but it is beyond the purposes of this
paper to discuss them.
The main reason paraphilias are much more common in males than
females relates to the aforementioned theory in which men are
primarily involved in the quantity-control aspect of reproduction and
women in the quality-control aspect. The biologically programmed
"promiscuity" of men easily spreads to their being far less
discriminating with regard to the receptacle into which they are willing
to deposit their sperm. Accordingly, receptacles that may not
immediately bring about an increase in the population may still be used,
so pervasive and compelling are the urges. The obsessive-compulsive
nature of the male sexual drive, and the over-representation of males in
the paraphilic population enhances the credibility of my theory
The presentation of my theory would not be complete without some
discussion of masturbation. One could argue that it does not support the
theory because this widespread practice serves absolutely no procreative
function. In fact, it can be viewed as a "waste" of sexual
urges because it does not lead to the transmission of DNA into the next
generation of survival machines. I could argue even further that it
defeats DNA's purposes in that it allows for a reduction in sexual drive
and therefore lessens the likelihood of the immediate quest for
procreation.
These arguments notwithstanding, I believe that masturbation also
serves DNA's purposes. It keeps the juices flowing and thereby
contributes to the prevention of disuse atrophy of the reproductive apparatus.
More importantly, it serves DNA survival in another way. It allows
for the release and gratification of sexual tensions and cravings so
that the individual may be free to direct attention to other survival
considerations such as the acquisition of food, clothing, and shelter.
Without this form of release, individuals might be continually in a
state of excitation and frustration and thereby be unable to devote
proper attention to other activities necessary for the survival of the
temporary housing machines. The genitals do not exist in isolation from
the rest of the body. They require nourishment and protection.
The
survival machine cannot merely focus on providing opportunities for the
copulatory organs to perform their function. Rather, it must also
direct itself to other necessary matters that keep the genital organs in
good health, functioning properly, and protected from danger. Such
activities are not likely to be accomplished effectively and efficiently
if the housing machine is distracted significantly by unsatisfied sexual
cravings.
I have been particularly careful to avoid making any judgments about
these atypical forms of human behavior. Many societies, however, have
been unjustifiably punitive to those who exhibit these paraphilic
variations and have not given proper respect to the genetic factors that
may very well be operative. Such considerations might result in greater
tolerance for those who exhibit these atypical sexual proclivities.
My
hope is that this theory will play a role (admittedly small) in bringing
about greater sympathy and respect for individuals who exhibit these
variations of sexual behavior. Recognizing that they do play a role in
species survival may contribute to some alteration in this unfortunate
attitude.
It would be an error to conclude that I am condoning all of these
forms of sexual behavior. Each one must be considered in its own right
with regard to the judgments one passes on them. An important
determinant of my own judgments relates to the coercive element,
especially when the coerced person is weaker and/or younger. Although
pedophilia may ultimately serve nature's purposes, it is still a form of
exploitation of an innocent party.
Sadomasochism may also serve the purposes of the survival of the
human species, but it is basically a form of cruelty we could well do
without. We differ from lower animals with regard to the development of
the human brain, which has the capacity to suppress and repress those
forces that press for indiscriminate reproduction of DNA and its passage
down the generations from one survival machine to another. Also,
consideration must be given to the social attitude toward a particular
variation. It is a disservice to guide children along an atypical
developmental track (especially when there is no evidence that their
genes are propelling them along that path), because they will
predictably suffer for their atypicality.
I am not suggesting that we submit to every social prejudice. What I
am suggesting is that we try to educate society to be less prejudiced
and to be less condemning of those with paraphilias, especially those
that do not cause harm to younger and/or weaker individuals.
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