Title: |
Therapeutic Interventions for Children with Parental Alienation Syndrome
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Author: |
Richard A. Gardner, M.D.
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Publisher: |
Creative Therapeutics. Inc., ©2001 |
Creative Therapeutics, Inc.
P.O. Box 522
Cresskill, NJ 077626 - 0522
(201) 567 - 8989
$40.05 (p)
This book is possibly Dr. Gardner's most insightful and most
controversial of the 44 he has written. It is insightful because he takes a
phenomenon known to anyone who has ever been involved in dealing with
dysfunctional families, that is, children can become a battleground for parents
who want to hurt each other, and brilliantly locates it within the broader
context of our society and the changes it is undergoing. It is a book which
again and again Dr. Gardner says is only for therapists, and professionals, not
parents.
"I am suggesting we first go back the point where
reasonable and humane disciplinary and punitive measures are implemented so that
children are not free to denigrate and humiliate with impunity their
PAS-alienated parents. There must be accountability. There must be consequences.
This is the history of the world. Without accountability and consequences, there
cannot be civilized society. PAS children are being programmed to be uncivilized
and even to be psychopathic. It is one of the purposes of this book to bring
attention to this important factor that is operative in the development of PAS,
a factor that has untoward consequences in other areas of children's lives: in
the home, in the neighborhood, and in the schools" (p.421).
It is controversial because Dr. Gardner is clear and explicit
in telling therapists that psychotherapy with children and families exhibiting
the pattern of PAS must be authoritative, openly value loaded, with a high moral
commitment, and deliberately induce proper shame and guilt in children for
misbehavior. There is no room for any relativistic pap in Dr. Gardner's
prescription for therapy. There is a right and a wrong way to raise children and
for parents and children to relate. There is no room for a therapist to hide
behind a deceitful claim to be impartial, objective, and only working for the
patient to get clear on their intents and purposes.
Dr. Gardner's description of his suggested psychotherapy
techniques for those caught in an alienation pattern of behavior are more than
the typical cookbook or therapy manual. Dr. Gardner provides the theoretical
basis for what he suggests. This permits a therapist to meet the complexity of
human experience and from the theory derive specific relevant and applicable
behaviors.
This is strong stuff for many who practice psychotherapy.
Anyone who purports to want to help troubled children and their families must
read this book carefully. It may not be that all will agree with it or adopt its
message. However, therapy can never be quite the same for the therapist after
reading it.
Reviewed by Ralph Underwager, Institute for Psychological Therapies.